peregrine

I'm Peregrine. I'm on a journey.

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exile-on-izzy-street:

citrusskies:

Checking tumblr to see how people feel about being child free. It mainly has to do with my parents wanting me to procreate. I can’t do it, I won’t, I will never give them grandchildren.

It has nothing to do with being a spiteful bitch. The thing is…

I do, in theory, want to have children some day.  But at twenty-six, my mother has started nagging me about why I’m not married, why I haven’t had a child.  I don’t feel mature enough for either of those things.  I’m about to move back home because of money and health problems.  I keep having relationships that fail spectacularly.  Why don’t I have kids?  How the hell could I?

I don’t know when our parents will understand that if we don’t have kids, there’s a reason.  Either because we’re not ready yet, we’re having trouble conceiving, or because we don’t want to.  No one like forgets to have children.  Just because my mom had two kids by the time she was my age doesn’t mean it was a good idea, and even if it was, that doesn’t mean it’s for me.

When I do have a child, she will not be a burden, an inconvenience, or a problem.  Until or unless I get to that point in my life, I won’t have a child, because if I ever do, I’m going to do it right and give her the life any human being deserves.  If I can’t do that, then I won’t have children.

And it would really help if my mother stopped bothering me about it.

  1. on-a-peregrine reblogged this from ladyislingering and added:
    I do, in theory, want to have children some day. But at twenty-six, my mother has started nagging me about why I’m not...